23 Things I Wish Someone Would Have Told Me at 22

 PC: Jordan Calderon

PC: Jordan Calderon

As I’m turning 23 and leaving my Taylor Swift year, I wanted to look back and see just how much I have grown as a person. Reflecting is always interesting. You (hopefully) grew as an individual, made new friends, detached yourself from toxic friends, traveled, ate, slept, you get it.

Here’s some words of advice that I have learned in this incredible year and I hope it can help you too.

 

1. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is the absolute fastest way to grow - that being said, pushing too hard can result in feeling like you have no control over anything. Tread carefully

 

2. Loving yourself will be the catalyst for all great change to come. You can’t expect to receive love if you don’t know what that feels like. Focus on you.

 

3. That boss you hate that does not respect you will not matter in a couple of months time. Sometimes we need to endure bad in order to appreciate the next great thing

 

4. Friendship break-ups are somehow tougher than relationship break-ups, you don’t expect them to leave you. They fill you with an anguish and despair that you had no idea could exist. Continue loving yourself, this too shall pass.

 

5. Don’t be afraid to take on a job beneath your paygrade or outside of your intended field of work. It’s the unexpected jobs that somehow link you to pathways you never thought you’d encounter.

 

6. Everybody is on a different path from you now. Grad school, full-time jobs, traveling, everybody is doing their own thing and it would be a disgrace to compare yourself to them. You have your own path. Take your time, ask many questions, try new things, stay true to you.

 

7. Making new friends after college is hard, this is no joke. An easy way to combat this is by forming closer relationships with people you “kinda know” but not really.

 

8. Go out more. You don’t meet people and you don’t create memories by simply staying at home, the world is out there for you to enjoy.

 

9. Treat your body like a temple. Youth only lasts so long. Sleep earlier, drink more water, eat healthy foods, and exercise with purpose.

 

10. Speaking of which, taking shots as if it was water is now out of the question. Shitty alcohol does not cut it. Note: You will grow to like beer. This is good, beer is cheap.

 

11. You’re going to be spending a lot more time alone with yourself than you anticipated, people now have full time jobs and no more 3 hour class gaps. Get comfortable.

 

12. Do you prefer a structured or unstructured life? Figure this out because it will bleed into your workplace and how productive you can be.

 

13. Learn to be more vulnerable. People have broken your trust and heart but putting up 100 walls will not make your life any easier.

 

14. Cherish your 3+ friends and tell them how much you care for them when you do see them. You’ll see you have more people in your corner than you realize.

 

15. Go to the gym. Exercise. You need it and no longer have any excuse. I promise you will be filled with energy and feel damn good about yourself.

 

16. Take the time to figure out what looks good on you, what clothing you like to wear, are sunglasses your thing? Style is fun! Indulge wisely.

 

17. A good pair of tight fitting jeans and on point brows will take your confidence from 0 to superwoman-chic-unstoppable-amazonian goddess. Promise.

 

18. Read more. Seriously. I think our brain cells have slowly depleted since we left college.

 

19. Which again, brings me to the fact that libraries still exist! Yes, free books that you don’t have to download off the internet. Go get your card.

 

20. Your best friend will find a job in the same city as you and after 5 years of being apart you will be reunited. Long distance was worth it.

 

21. Your other best friend will move to the other side of the country and you will engage in a long-distance relationship with her. The Bachelor/The Bachelorette will continue to bond you and you look forward to her finishing grad school.

 

22. You will dates lots of people this year and find that you learn more and more about yourself with each new person. Date more, don’t be afraid to wear your heart on your sleeve, and most importantly, push through. The right one will eventually come.

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This year, I hope to continue to push myself and ask the hard questions. Those that include: what speaks to your heart and really makes you happy? Maybe I'll leave Southern California, maybe I'll go abroad, maybe grad school is in my future. Whatever it is, I hope it brings me only joy, happiness, and fulfillment :)

Thank you for reading!

xoxo,

Oneisha